Monday, September 22, 2008

Why Purple??

Each year for October I dye my hair purple.  I am always asked why purple, and my answer always is:  because it is the awareness color for domestic violence and this is domestic violence awareness month.

Last year I had one person ask me, "Why is purple the awareness color for domestic violence".  I had no complete or even half way answer for that, other than it just is.

So this year I decided to find out so that if someone asks me again, I can tell them.

I could not find a definite answer to this.  However, there were bits and pieces of the same story that I did keep running into so that is what I decided to piece together.  This may not be the absolute real reason the color purple was chosen, but it is the most accepted story. 

Lisa Bianco was a woman from the Midwest in the 1980s who left her abusive relationship. She then began working in battered women’s program in her community. Although her batterer had been sent to jail, he obtained a temporary furlough.

During this release, he crossed state lines, went to her home and killed her in the street in front of her neighbors.

After her murder, her friends and family wanted to remember the life and work of this woman and chose to wear her favorite color in her honor - the color purple.

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Many states have recognized the purple ribbons in proclamations which memorialize National DV Awareness Month as October.

Many think that the purple ribbons are to show support for the survivors and advocates and that is partly correct.  The purple ribbons also are meant to bring the message that there is no place for domestic violence in schools, homes, communities or workplaces.

The color purple represents courage, survival, honor and dedication to ending domestic violence.

So where are you going to put your purple?

Saturday, September 20, 2008

Domestic Violence Awareness Month and it's history

With Domestic Violence Awareness Month just around the corner I thought maybe some would like to know how this month came about.  Many often say that everything has a month and well DV gets October....there is a little more to it than that.

Yes, we should all be thinking of Awareness and Advocacy throughout the year; however this is the one month of the year that everyone can also come together to remember those that have been touched by domestic violence in one way or another.

The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV) held the first ever Day of Unity in October 1981.  I do not know, nor can I find why they picked one day in the month of October, but this day is what started it all.  The Day of Unity was intended to represent the unity of advocates working for victims of domestic violence across the United States. 

The Day of Unity eventually became a week-long recognition of:

bd14942_ advocates who were committed to the prevention of domestic violence,

bd14942_remembrance of the women and children killed because of domestic violence, and

bd14942_ the recognition and celebration of those who survived domestic violence.

The first Domestic Violence Awareness Month was October 1987.  The goal was to coordinate efforts nationwide to educate communities about domestic violence, the effects on community and the resources available to help survivors. That first national toll-free hotline began that same year.

In 1989 the first Domestic Violence Awareness Month Commemorative Legislation was passed by the United States Congress.  Since Domestic Violence Awareness Month’s enactment, State Legislatures across the nation have done the same as well.

Domestic Violence Awareness Month is also a time to encourage the public to take active steps to address domestic violence. The hope is that a month of intensified awareness efforts combined with the broad spectrum of anti-domestic violence work throughout the year will bring us closer to ending domestic violence.

So what are you going to do this year?

Friday, September 19, 2008

Today is the DAY!!

Today is National Respect Day to raise awareness about sexual assault and take a stand against child abuse.

You can lend your support by texting the keyword “RESPECT” to 41010 – for a goal of 10 million acts of respect for the 10 million children who witness violence in their homes each year. Your mobile effort will be mapped out on, which will be populated by the minute with respect acts across the country.

You can also go to the web site and sign the declaration which will also be mapped.  Look around the site once you get there, there is information and many different ways to become involved. 

This is a virtual rally, so no matter where you are you can join in the rally!  If you are concerned for your private information, then use a different name and zip code when signing the declaration, it is the numbers that count!

You can also choose to donate $5 from your mobile phone to support the Family Violence Prevention Fund (FVPF), one of the nation’s leading organizations working to prevent and end violence against women and children, and you can invite a friend to join the movement. (The $5 donation will be added to your phone bill after you opt in.)

Thursday, September 18, 2008

Give Respect!

Dear Readers,

There's a worldwide rally for respect going on. And it's all about preventing violence against women and children by building safer, healthier, and stronger homes and communities throughout the world.
Join me at the rally for respect at


Monday, September 15, 2008

Saturday, September 06, 2008

Discussion Groups

Ok, I found this while stumbling around the www .....I actually find this to be
very funny but in another sort of way very sad, because it is oh so true of over
half the discussions groups that I am on.... especially right now with everyone trying to
'dis-cuss' politics....ROFLMAO actually!! How I wish I could actually post this to a couple of
the groups just so some would maybe SEE how ridiculous they are!! But then the
professionally offended amongst them would get their panties (of sorry...undergarments) in
such a wad they may never be found again!

Subject: Light Bulb/Discussion Groups (fwd)

Q: How many internet mail list subscribers does it take
to change a light bulb?

A: 1,331:

1 to change the light bulb and to post to the mail list that the light
bulb has been changed.

14 to share similar experiences of changing light bulbs and how the light
bulb could have been changed differently.

7 to caution about the dangers of changing light bulbs.

27 to point out spelling/grammar errors in posts about changing light bulbs.

53 to flame the spell checkers

156 to write to the list administrator complaining about the light bulb
discussion and its inappropriateness to this mail list.

41 to correct spelling in the spelling/grammar flames.

109 to post that this list is not about light bulbs and to please take
this email exchange to alt.light.bulb

203 to demand that cross posting to alt.grammar, alt.spelling and
alt.punctuation about changing light bulbs be stopped.

111 to defend the posting to this list saying that we all use light bulbs
and therefore the posts **are** relevant to this mail list.

306 to debate which method of changing light bulbs is superior, where to
buy the best light bulbs, what brand of light bulbs work best for this
technique, and what brands are faulty.

27 to post URLs where one can see examples of different light bulbs

14 to post that the URLs were posted incorrectly, and to post corrected URLs.

3 to post about links they found from the URLs that are relevant to this
list which makes light bulbs relevant to this list.

33 to concatenate all posts to date, then quote them including all headers
and footers, and then add "Me Too."

12 to post to the list that they are unsubscribing because they cannot
handle the light bulb controversey.

19 to quote the "Me Too's" to say, "Me Three."

4 to suggest that posters request the light bulb FAQ.

1 to propose new alt.change.light.bulb newsgroup.

47 to say this is just what alt.physic.cold_fusion was meant for, leave
it here.

143 votes for alt.lite.bulb.

Friday, August 15, 2008

What little girls are made of...

Gun Powder and Lead

This video says it all!!  Please watch it, read what it says, listen to the song, then absorb the meaning.  This is no joke!!  It happens all the time!!  Feel free to share this far and wide.

Wednesday, August 13, 2008

What'd'ya do.....

What do you do when you have so many things to say to so many different people and you just can't say them? In some cases I have things I need to say to people, but if said these things will either hurt their feelings or piss them off. Either way in those couple of cases those people would no longer be in my life. Which in the over all grand scheme of things would not be bad for these are those that are taking anything they can but never giving back...which would be of no great loss to me, however I just don't want to be mean. There have been times in my life when being mean to others never made me bat an now, when I really do need to be mean in a few cases, in-order to stand of for myself, I can't bring myself to doing it?

Then there are the few people that do actually mean something to me and that I do not want to piss off or hurt....which if I said what needs to be said to them would hurt them....well more likely piss them off first until it sunk in then it would hurt them. In this groups are those that should be told certain things but again I can't bring myself to say these things. Do I let these people go on with their blinders to these things?

Then I also have a few nicer things to say and can't....this truly is for my own fear. If I were to let someone know certain things I am thinking it would be letting down barriers I have taken far too long to build. Like all that work crumbled in mere seconds to nothing....then where would I be? I know I should not fear nor even care about others reactions to things I may have to say.....but after so many years of keeping the 'softer' side of me buried so deep how now to I let that show?

Why can't I be straight forward? I have not actually mislead any of these people nor have I been dishonest. However, I am starting to feel that I am being dishonest in my inability to say what I am really thinking. This is something new for me...actually thinking of someone else's feelings above my own and not wanting to hurt others. I do kinda think I'd like to go back to the way I used to be...saying what I think, when I think it, without regard to how it is taken and what reaction the other person may have. Why have I become somehow concerned with what others may think? How did I let this happen?

Tuesday, July 29, 2008

Scour--A new way to search and get paid for it!!

Did you hear about Scour? It is the next gen search engine with Google/Yahoo/MSN results and user comments all on one page. Best of all we get paid for using it by earning points with every search, comment and vote. The points are redeemable for Visa gift cards! It's like earning credit card or airline points just for searching! Hit the link below to join for free and we will both get points!

Birth Announcement of Baby Taylor Douglas Ferris


Birth Announcement of Baby Taylor Douglas Ferris

Sunday, July 13, 2008

Testing again...

Ok, one last test...I messed up the last one...didn't know I had to be using Blogger in Draft.....ah well, I have learned!

Testing Windows Live Writer

Ok, so I downloaded Windows Live Writer and it has a button that gives me the option to Set the publish I am doing a test to see if I set up this post and then turn the computer off if it will still publish at the time I set.
I guess most of you already that it will or won't and I also guess I could have looked it up or asked someone, but I'd rather just play around with this myself...much more fun that way!

Lust in space: Nasa must iron out the kinks in space sex if man is to settle on Mars - Telegraph

This was just kinda funny to me and I wanted to share so that all of you could get the same mental image I did just from reading the title.....LOL!

Lust in space: Nasa must iron out the kinks in space sex if man is to settle on Mars - Telegraph

Wednesday, June 11, 2008

Domestic violence research question

United Angels Against Domestic Violence is doing research on the different abusive scenrio's that people endure. We have put a short one question poll up on the UAADV News Blog (Yes, we realize that one question isn't enough but we are taking this in stages.)

Please look at the link above, the poll is in the upper left corner. For now this is only one question with very few generalized answers. We will get more in depth with the questions and answers as thing progress. If you feel that your main reason is not listed, please feel free to email with your reason and it will be added to upcoming questions and answers lists. (We will not be keeping the names or email addy's of those that email us)

Please pass this link onto as many as you think would answer the question.

You do not need to sign into Blogger to answer this question.

Thank you all for your time and help in this matter!!!

Thursday, May 01, 2008

Tuesday, April 22, 2008

List of social networking websites

While trying to assist someone in finding a teen friendly social networking site I ran across this list. I found it fairly useful since it gives some details of who uses the sites and what they are more geared to..... List of social networking websites - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Friday, April 18, 2008

Healing you can do yourself

This website has covers the most common ailments that people suffer. It give the backgound and how to heal yourself without drugs or surgery. It is very interesting reading and in my opinion very informational and helpful.

FREE information tells how new way helps you heal yourself of any physical, mental or spiritual problems, without drugs or surgery.

Wednesday, April 16, 2008

Updating and Organizing!

For the next few days I am updating things and trying to get all my sites, pages, profiles, etc. organized. I am adding the blidgets of my main blogs to other sites where I have profiles so that everyone can easily keep in touch and up dated on what I am doing. In an effort to stop spinning my wheels and actually get things done I have decided to use only 4 of my blogs to post. This one as my personal one, Tailored Life Coaching for life coaching articles, UAADV NC for domestic violence related stuff pertaining to North Carolina, and UAADV News Blog for domestic violence related news articles. I have made blidgets for all four of these with widgetbox to find/use them go here. If that link doesn't work for you, let me know!

Tuesday, March 25, 2008

TV Show 'I Survived'

What would you do if you were confronted with death? What gives someone the strength to survive? Is it luck, chance, instinct? In a stripped-down, simple-yet-cinematic interview style, I Survived... allows survivors to explain, in their own words, how they overcame unbelievable circumstances -- offering....

Go Empower Yourself Through God's Word

Are you mad at God? Do you feel like He has turned His back on you or maybe that He doesn’t exist at all? If you answered either of these questions with a yes or even a maybe, then these Bible studies are written for you. Through our abuse, we often loose our faith in God and often we will find ourselves questioning everything to do with Jesus. You can get back in touch with God; in fact, He wants you to. Jesus understands our pain and our suffering and can’t wait for us to reach for Him.

Sunday, March 09, 2008

The Game

The Game by Disturbed is about someone being beaten. For more information on Domestic Violence go to

Video by: doves4luv on YouTube

UAADV News Blog: The Game

Monday, March 03, 2008

Every Day....

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